There is no such thing as a boring Mother; only boring questions.
Get better at asking more meaningful questions and you’ll find an entirely new person in your mother or anyone else you’ve labeled uninteresting.
When you ask your Mom deeper questions, you show her that you value her as a person in her own right. If she’s not accustomed to you being interested in her, she may be surprised, so I’ve listed a few easier questions to start with.
If she asks why you’re suddenly so interested, say something like, “I realize I’ve been so focused on my own life that I haven’t really taken the time to get to know you like I would a good friend. You’re important to me.” Bring the Kleenex and take the time to listen. You’ll be surprised at what you learn. (You can download the questions at the end of this post.)
- What is one of your happiest memories?
- What’s your favorite place in nature? Your favorite flower?
- What’s one of the most meaningful gifts you’ve received?
- What’s one of the most loving things someone has done for you?
- What’s one of the most loving things you’ve ever done for someone?
- What music, poetry, art, books, or movies have most inspired you and why?
- What’s one of the best places you’ve ever traveled?
- What’s one place you’d still like to visit and why?
- What’s your favorite prayer?
- If you had only 6 months left to live, what would you want to be sure to experience?
- What are you most grateful for? Why? Count your blessings. Name 10.
- What’s one of the nicest things you’ve ever done for yourself?
- What’s the best compliment anyone has ever paid you?
- What do you value most in yourself? What do you value most in me?
- What contribution in your life are you most proud of?
The Nicest Thing You Can Say To Your Mother:
Mom, I love you because you…
Of all the comments I received from mothers I interviewed, the one request that came up over and over again was how much Moms want to hear “I love you.” When you can add specific reasons, memories, and details to your “I love you,” it strengthens your message and helps anchor good feelings in both of you.
If you really want to take Mother’s Day over the top, record your Mom’s answers and put them in a homemade printed book for you with pictures of the two of you. Give this book to her for her next birthday or just to perk up your next visit. Happy Mother’s Day.
If you like these questions, there are hundreds more in My Mother, My Friend, which focus on the 10 most important things to talk about with your mother:
- End of Life
- Self-image and Beauty
- Resolving Conflict
- Family Secrets
- Intimacy and Men
Treat your Mother and Yourself to the Gift of Loving Memories.
Mother’s Day Special Package (any day is a good day to thank your mother)
* 2 soft-cover copies of My Mother, My Friend by Mary Marcdante (reg. $12/each)
* 1 mp3 digital download of a 60 minute live presentation by Mary on My Mother, My Friend (reg. $15)
* Plus a free bonus interview (mp3 download) with Mary on “Honoring Our Mothers.” (reg. $15)
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