• “Success is not to be pursued;
    it is to be attracted by the person you become.”

    ~ Jim Rohn ~

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    This headline really got my attention this morning: Do You Have Inspiration Deficit Disorder?

    While I’m not a fan of negative labeling, I’ve learned that most people are more apt to first pay attention to the problems in their lives and then how to solve them and wait for inspiration to arrive. If that’s you, stop waiting. What often happens is that we get stuck in retelling the problem instead of taking inspired action and creating an inspiring result.

    For as long as I’ve been researching, speaking, consulting and coaching on how to stay inspired and enthusiastic through challenge and change, one of the most common “Yeah, but” responses I hear from people is that the idea of living an inspired life is a luxury to experience after you’ve slogged through the hard stuff rather than a necessity that will ease you through the hard times – and in some situations even prevent unnecessary hard times that we’ve self-created. What side of the fence is your mind leaning on? Continue reading »

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  • The team at San Diego 6 Living is great to work with. Producer Tiffany Frowiss should be cloned. She has amazing relationship strengths to keep all the talent organized and on time in a professional and upbeat manner under a lot of pressure and last minute changes.

    The day I was on so was comedian Paula Poundstone who is performing in San Diego this weekend. She arrived with two of her children and ended up adopting two kittens from the shelter that were highlighted on the show. Watching her spontaneously respond with humor throughout her conversation with Greg Phillips reminded me that when you’re in the flow, it’s because your strengths are being engaged in something you’re enthusiastic about.

    I also had a chance to meet John Block, the organizer of Adams Avenue Art and Music Festival, as well as the hip hop dance troupe Kruciaal Elements (very fun and talented!) who are performing at the Festival this weekend.

    These kids know how to shake it and their enthusiasm for movement is contagious, as well as their commitment to excellence. The hour that I was in the Green Room with them, they practiced over and over until they left for the studio and did a great job on live TV.

    Another great example that when you’re passionate about something and it engages your core strengths, practicing and rehearsing may sometimes feel like work, but you do it anyway because you know that it also creates purposeful joy.

    Blessed are those who discover their strengths and passions and share them with the world. Call me if you’d like a complimentary 30 minute coaching session to help you do this. It’s one of my favorite things in the world to do.

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  • After a four year hiatus, today I repeated the VIA (Values in Action) Strengths survey on the newly updated happier.com. Once again, I was reminded of the power of self-discovery and self-awareness, and the immense value of identifying your personal strengths.

    The site highlights research and assessments by the gifted Dr. Martin Seligman, founder of the Positive Psychology movement at the University of Pennsylvania and helps you apply that research to your life in very user-friendly ways.

    According to the VIA Institute on Character, this survey is the most scientifically validated tool for measuring character strengths. Over 1.3 million people have taken it. There are 24 qualities that have been validated as strengths that lead to happiness when applied to your daily life. Alphabetically listed, here they are:

    Appreciation of beauty and excellence
    Bravery and valor
    Capacity to love and be loved
    Creativity, ingenuity, and originality
    Curiosity and interest in the world
    Forgiveness and mercy
    Gratitude
    Honesty, authenticity, and genuineness
    Hope, optimism, and future-mindedness
    Humor and playfulness
    Judgment, critical thinking, and open-mindedness
    Kindness and generosity
    Leadership
    Love of learning
    Modesty and humility
    Perseverance, industry and diligence
    Perspective (wisdom)
    Prudence, caution, and discretion
    Religiousness, spirituality, sense of purpose, and faith
    Self-regulation and self-control
    Social intelligence
    Teamwork, citizenship and loyalty
    Zest, enthusiasm, and energy

    When you take this free profile online, which I highly recommend, you’ll be asked 240 multiple choice questions. Set aside a half hour to answer – it’s worth the time because what you’ll learn can positively shape everything you do. You’ll be fascinated, I promise.

    At the end of the profile, you’re presented with a personalized list and description of your 24 strengths in order of importance to you. While the list wasn’t new information to me since I’d taken it before, it did show that four of my strengths remained in the top five in a new order and reflected more of how I experience my happiness now, which is a real gift because it reconfirms what has helped me survive some very challenging personal changes in the past four years and is what I can count on and follow when the world around me is in flux (like now!).

    Another powerful reminder of this assessment, similar to Marcus Buckingham’s work and the Gallup StrengthsFinder, is that for a person to feel happy on a regular basis, your day (work and personal time) needs to include activities where you can apply and experience your top five strengths.

    Here’s my Happier.com list of top 5 strengths:

    1. Appreciation of beauty and excellence
    2. Gratitude
    3. Curiosity and interest in the world
    4. Kindness and generosity
    5. Love of learning

    Fortunately for me, my work as a speaker and writer committed to helping people stay inspired through challenge and change allows me to use these strengths every day. But…that doesn’t mean I’m always aware that I am doing so, or actually using those strengths, and therein lies a major key to feeling happier – a written daily strengths checklist and journal you can review and act from, especially when you’re going through a difficult time.

    A few other interesting insights:

    The profile lists your strengths in order of preference and while it’s not stated, you can presume that your 24th strength is also your greatest challenge.

    Not surprisingly, I share #24 with most other people who take the profile. (When I went through Seligman’s six-month “Authentic Happiness Coaching Program,” they mentioned this research fact.)

    Drum roll, please: my #24 is Self-Regulation and Self-Control. While there many areas of my life where this is not true, where it does fit is with time management. I have a hard time sticking to my own self-defined schedules for getting projects done (which is another reason why I love accountability partners and client timelines).

    But here’s the good news in identifying and applying your strengths: On the occasions that I do get stuck, if I apply even one of my strengths to getting something done that I’m avoiding that is important and not urgent (Covey’s Key Success Quadrant), magic can and often will occur.

    For example: First thing in the morning, I love to walk at Torrey Pines Reserve and Beach, take photos of moments that inspire me (here’s one from today), and then journal, all of which I do almost every early morning before I start my work day. These activities energize and nurture me and as I was reminded again today, tap into my strengths.

    Once I get to my desk, if it becomes challenging for me to stick to my daily work plan (what plan!?), and I find myself clicking on the Mahjong Titans computer game or stepping away from my desk for a sugar-fat snack attack, it’s a sign I’m off track. While fun, those actions don’t move me forward in my day or life. The key to my success in that moment (and long term) is to catch myself in that .5 second that researchers say a decision occurs, and do the following: smile, take a deep breath, review my strengths list, and ask myself, “How can I apply at least one of these strengths to this task?” In the case of a marketing call, I simply have to remember how grateful I am to get to do the work I do, how much I appreciate my audiences, and how curious I am to learn more about a new client, and voella!, the calls get made and I’m using my strengths in service to my higher purpose and vision.

    And, sometimes, honestly, playing Mahjong Titans and hiking to the store for a king-size Reese’s Crispy Crunchy Bar still do the trick.

    You can take the VIA Happiness Strengths for free at Happier.com. Go take it now. You’ll be glad you did. And if you’d like this type of information presented at your business or organization, or would like a complimentary coaching session on how to apply this in your life, email me at mary (at) marymarcdante.com.

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  • This morning at the gym in my yoga class I was in the middle of our final meditation when I heard a voice within say, “This is sooooooooo good!”

    Because I’ve learned how much wisdom these inner voices can offer when I pay attention and listen, I responded silently to the voice, “Who are you?” I heard this joyful reply, “I am your EnthusiMaster!”

    EnthusiMaster! What a hoot! I’ve used a StairMaster, but an EnthusiMaster? I laughed out loud and smiled the remainder of the meditation. I couldn’t have consciously conjured up this image if I tried, and yet out of the depths of my subconscious comes a perfect description for that part of us that loves exercising our joy muscles by tapping into our natural enthusiasm for the activities, people, ideas, and dreams that give us energy and allow us to feel happy.

    What’s even more fun is that for the past several weeks I’ve been working long hours on a new website that highlights my new enthusiasm self-coaching program (subscribe to this blog) and you’ll be notified). This EnthusiMaster is a perfect reminder of the gifts that arise from cogitating deeply on something that fascinates you.

    Where is your EnthusiMaster hiding? What fascinating ideas, dreams, or projects are waiting for you to bring your EnthusiMaster to life? If you’d like help tapping into your Creative Source and natural enthusiasm to manifest a dream or project faster and with more fun, email me at mary (at) marymarcdante.com and let’s set up a introductory coaching session to make that happen.

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