02/22/14

Does Competition Make You Better?

Jimmy Sherburne, #2 Princeton Tiger Senior Guard, February 2014

How do you feel about competition? Do you rise to the occasion? Do you clutch? Do you encourage it or walk away from it?

“Competition makes me better.” Jimmy Sherburne, Princeton Tiger #2, Senior Guard (and adored nephew) playing in tonight’s game against Harvard. Go Tigers!

Back story: One of my favorite quotes and people, not just because Jimmy’s one of my five talented nephews, also because he shifted my perspective on competition. When he was 17 and playing high school bball against a college team, I asked him what he thought about playing such an experienced team and he said, “Competition makes me better. I like it.”

Profound answer for me.

I’ve never felt comfortable competing, often choosing to play smaller than my heart’s desire for so many reasons – fear of being perceived as a show-off, wanting others to like me, wanting others to feel good about themselves, early girl training in Catholic grade school, potential disappointment of losing anyway…

Now, when I feel that way, I think of Jimmy and remember that giving my best when up against any other person or team, makes us all better.

A rising tide lifts all boats. Thank you Jimmy!

PS. They play at 8 pm EST tonight, home game. You can watch on ESPN3.

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02/14/14

Love and Happy Valentine’s Day from Torrey Pines Reserve

Torrey Pines LOVE

Happy Full Moon Valentine’s Day from the top of Torrey Pines!

For as long as I’ve walked these trails I’ve imagined capturing the love and light of people walking in silhouette to the sun and moon and hills here. Finally it happened recently - and spontaneously.

Just before the trail meets the beach I looked up and saw these women passing above. I raised my arm and put up my index finger in the air, hoping to catch their attention. They stopped. I started spelling out the word LOVE with my arms. One by one they started mirroring my gestures – L-O-V-E.

I’m not sure what Lovely Ladies Five and Six on the right were doing, maybe spelling Love backwards, but I am sure that LOVE shows up in the most unlikely places when we show up with an open heart and let the presence of the moment lead the way.

What are you sure of about LOVE?

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10/16/13
Mary Marcdante | Speaker & Author | Less Stress, More Life

Inspired Action: Two Questions to Help People Lead with Enthusiasm

 

Sometimes the best way to open the door to a healthier and happier life and workplace is to lead with enthusiasm by asking people to do something unexpected for you, which ends up helping everyone feel more encouraging energy for whatever challenging situation you’re in.

In this video clip I am speaking to an audience of 175 healthcare professionals, sharing a story about the way my doctor responded to me when I was being taken into surgery many years ago. I still remember his unexpected response – actually shocking for his reserved personality according to his team — simply because he chose to remember and act on a request that I’d made weeks before to keep things positive in the operating room after he recommended surgery for early-stage cancer.

If you or the people around you are not feeling excited about your life circumstances, do something positive that takes you out of your comfort zone because it allows people around you to think, “Holy Cow, maybe I could look at the world a little differently too.”

If we’re feeling the potential action might not be professional or not who we are, we put on Beginner’s Mind and say “If I didn’t know this person was like this, what might I ask? If I didn’t know I was like this, what might I do differently? How can I be different in the world so that I could feel more alive in my body? What does that look like? How does it feel?

There are incredible feelings of freedom and joy available when you risk releasing and expressing to others the genuine enthusiasm that lives inside you and is waiting to be let out.

If you or someone you know are looking for a speaker for your next event or coaching for yourself or team members in the areas of stress resilience, better communication, or strengthening relationships, call or email for more information. http://marymarcdante.com

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