02/14/14

Love and Happy Valentine’s Day from Torrey Pines Reserve

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Happy Full Moon Valentine’s Day from the top of Torrey Pines!

For as long as I’ve walked these trails I’ve imagined capturing the love and light of people walking in silhouette to the sun and moon and hills here. Finally it happened recently - and spontaneously.

Just before the trail meets the beach I looked up and saw these women passing above. I raised my arm and put up my index finger in the air, hoping to catch their attention. They stopped. I started spelling out the word LOVE with my arms. One by one they started mirroring my gestures – L-O-V-E.

I’m not sure what Lovely Ladies Five and Six on the right were doing, maybe spelling Love backwards, but I am sure that LOVE shows up in the most unlikely places when we show up with an open heart and let the presence of the moment lead the way.

What are you sure of about LOVE?

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10/28/13
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Living with Enthusiasm: What’s the Best That Could Happen?

The Land of I Can by Susan Gilbert, CEO, OnlinePromotionSuccess.com
A friend and colleague of mine, Susan Gilbert, CEO of OnlinePromotionSuccess.com is a focus strategist and author of the award-winning inspirational book The Land of I Can. Today on Facebook, she posted a great question: “What’s the best that could happen?” First of all, GREAT QUESTION. Second, Susan is an expert at helping people figure this out and she walks her talk, as I discovered when I interviewed her for my book Living with Enthusiasm. Here is her story from Day 10:  Focus on the Good, p. 102-103.

Within a two-week period, Susan’s home was burglarized while she slept, her car was stolen, and the IRS audited her business. Watching her respond to these “situations” was a lesson in grace. Even one of these circumstances is enough to throw someone into the land of fear, blame, or depression. Yet Susan’s ability to maintain a positive mind-set amazed me…and still does. After the audit was completed, I asked her how focusing on the “good” kept her enthusiastic during these stressful incidents.

“Focusing on the good in any circumstance and being able to do so immediately is an art. With practice it can become as natural as breathing – automatic and life affirming. Two strategies really helped me through this experience. The first is believing that I create my own reality. The reality of the burglary could have been “I’ve been attacked. I’ve been violated. I’ve lost things that were important to me – physical things – a car, computer equipment an camera.” That could be a reality. And where did I create that? I created that with my thoughts. So I could also create a different reality.

I also chose to focus on the fact that I was safe and had the ability to create a safer environment. I focused on how some pre-existing problems were solved as a result of the burglary. For example, my front door had been sticking for months. I had been telling myself that it was sure to eventually lock me out. Because the burglars took my keys, I put new locks on the doors and got my front door fixed at the same time. So where did that thought come from? It came from within me. I had the ability to create my own reality.

Once I realize that I can look at any situation and create what I want from it, then it’s never about the circumstance and it’s always about my experience of the circumstance. I make that decision.

The second strategy I used was asking myself, “Where is the gift in this?” Aren’t you enthusiastic when someone gives you a gift? All of our lives, experiences are gifts – even the ones that don’t feel like it at the time. Days, weeks, months, and years later, we can look back at what felt like a disaster – the death of a loved one, a lost romance, job, illness, etc. – and say, “Gee, it didn’t feel like it at the time, but that situation was the best thing that ever happened to me.”

I was speaking with my accountant after the audit. He said, “Susan, every small business person gets hit at least once. It’s just a matter of time. Even though it came at a bad time for you, at least you can put that behind you.” That was a reframe [changing the way one looks at something] and a gift. Better that it happens now than when my company becomes a multi-million dollar business.

If you don’t train yourself to look for the gift, then it’s not even a possibility. You just stay stuck in your past thinking, “It’s a bad situation.” If you’re willing to look, anything can be a gift.

(P.S. Susan’s car was returned and the audit ended well.)

EnthusiAction:  Make a list of three difficult “situations” in your life and identify the gift you received from each. If you can’t find a gift, keep looking or ask a friend to help you discover it. Sometimes, what is good is right in front of our noses or right around the corner but we gave up too soon to experience it.

If you’re in the middle of a difficult situation, trust that based on past experience, there is a gift on its way to you when you stay focused on the good and answer the question “What the best that could happen?”

Look for the good.

If you would like more genuine enthusiasm in your life… 

Learn more about how you can receive for FREE the first 4 weekly sessions of the Living with Enthusiasm Self-Coaching Guidebook and Joy Journal. Click here…

 

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10/16/13
Mary Marcdante | Speaker & Author | Less Stress, More Life

Inspired Action: Two Questions to Help People Lead with Enthusiasm

 

Sometimes the best way to open the door to a healthier and happier life and workplace is to lead with enthusiasm by asking people to do something unexpected for you, which ends up helping everyone feel more encouraging energy for whatever challenging situation you’re in.

In this video clip I am speaking to an audience of 175 healthcare professionals, sharing a story about the way my doctor responded to me when I was being taken into surgery many years ago. I still remember his unexpected response – actually shocking for his reserved personality according to his team — simply because he chose to remember and act on a request that I’d made weeks before to keep things positive in the operating room after he recommended surgery for early-stage cancer.

If you or the people around you are not feeling excited about your life circumstances, do something positive that takes you out of your comfort zone because it allows people around you to think, “Holy Cow, maybe I could look at the world a little differently too.”

If we’re feeling the potential action might not be professional or not who we are, we put on Beginner’s Mind and say “If I didn’t know this person was like this, what might I ask? If I didn’t know I was like this, what might I do differently? How can I be different in the world so that I could feel more alive in my body? What does that look like? How does it feel?

There are incredible feelings of freedom and joy available when you risk releasing and expressing to others the genuine enthusiasm that lives inside you and is waiting to be let out.

If you or someone you know are looking for a speaker for your next event or coaching for yourself or team members in the areas of stress resilience, better communication, or strengthening relationships, call or email for more information. http://marymarcdante.com

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