Mary Marcdante | Speaker & Author | Less Stress, More Life

Inspired Action: Two Questions to Help People Lead with Enthusiasm


Sometimes the best way to open the door to a healthier and happier life and workplace is to lead with enthusiasm by asking people to do something unexpected for you, which ends up helping everyone feel more encouraging energy for whatever challenging situation you’re in.

In this video clip I am speaking to an audience of 175 healthcare professionals, sharing a story about the way my doctor responded to me when I was being taken into surgery many years ago. I still remember his unexpected response – actually shocking for his reserved personality according to his team — simply because he chose to remember and act on a request that I’d made weeks before to keep things positive in the operating room after he recommended surgery for early-stage cancer.

If you or the people around you are not feeling excited about your life circumstances, do something positive that takes you out of your comfort zone because it allows people around you to think, “Holy Cow, maybe I could look at the world a little differently too.”

If we’re feeling the potential action might not be professional or not who we are, we put on Beginner’s Mind and say “If I didn’t know this person was like this, what might I ask? If I didn’t know I was like this, what might I do differently? How can I be different in the world so that I could feel more alive in my body? What does that look like? How does it feel?

There are incredible feelings of freedom and joy available when you risk releasing and expressing to others the genuine enthusiasm that lives inside you and is waiting to be let out.

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Buddy (2000-2013) "Dogs are miracles with paws."

The Wisdom of Dogs: 10 Lessons I Learned From Buddy


My sister said her forever good bye to her 13 year old Lab Buddy yesterday while I was at a conference for local non-profit volunteers and caregivers who do grief and hospice work. I wish I could make it easier for her and everyone who loses someone they love. As I’ve thought about this I’m reminded of how death has this way of crystallizing loving memories and wisdom and carrying these gifts into the present moment for the heart to hold onto when the waves of stress, grief and pain come crashing down.

Christmast_1963_colorWhen we were kids and one of our pets died, my mother told me that the animals went to “Happy Hunting Ground” and St. Francis of Assisi helped them find their way. I always wondered how to get to Happy Hunting Ground and if it was in Santa’s backyard because my first puppy “Sammy” came from Santa and that gift made me the happiest I’d ever felt.

Fast forward to today and Happy Hunting Ground, St. Francis, Santa, and every beloved pet and human who have died now reside in my heart and my computer. Since I live 2500 miles away from my sister, the first place I went after I got off the phone with her so I could stay emotionally connected to her was to my photo and video file folders.

What a treasure trove. I found photographs and videos of Eileen and Buddy I’d taken two years earlier when we were at Family Camp. Buddy’s spirit and his devotion to Eileen (and her to him and her other Lab Flora) inspired me to make a short 45 second movie that is posted above. This Buddha dog was a great teacher. Here are 10 lessons I learned from Buddy that morning on Lake Michigan:

    1. Keep your eye on the ball.
    2. Learn to entertain yourself.
    3. Play more.
    4. Shake off what annoys you.
    5. Persist. If you can’t find it, keep digging.
    6. Trust.
    7. And dance a little while you’re at it.
    8. Jump for joy when you find what you’re looking for.
    9. Celebrate with others.
    10. Do it again, please.

If you’ve ever had to let go of a dog or other pet you loved, aging or otherwise, I know you’ll identify with Eileen’s thoughts on loss and gratitude that she shared on her Facebook page:

“I am overwhelmed by the outpouring of thoughts and virtual hugs after the loss of Buddy. The emotion from the loss of a pet feels the same as the loss of a human, we just don’t have as many rituals with pets or pet loss bereavement leave ? so the process seems to go faster, not sure it is better. I am glad I was brave enough to have Buddy put down in his own backyard, under the sun, in the outdoors. It was peaceful. I am lucky for my family & friends who were with me.

“I was actually Buddy’s second owner as I adopted him after a neighbor passed away. In his previous life, Buddy was an accomplished hunter with an incredibly muscular body. I let him get soft & spoiled. He was a goof of a dog as most labs are. I will miss his idiosyncrasies…needing to be nearby, laying on the rug right outside the shower, needing to sleep with his butt in my face, and barking in my face til I would take him out for a walk.

“Thanks again everyone from the bottom of my heart!”

Buddy (2000-2013) "Dogs are miracles with paws."

What pets have touched your heart? What have you learned from your animals? Please share in the comment box below.

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