03/30/14

Begin Again Wherever You Land

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Torrey Pines Nature Reserve and Beach are a haven and playground for me so when I see others enjoying the park and I’m asked to take a photo or people are taking photos of each other, and it feels right, I will ask, “Would you like a photo together? What brought you to Torrey Pines? Are you from the area or visiting?” I’ve met the most interesting people and had some of the most surprising and incredibly heart felt present moment exchanges and photo memories like this one on a recent Saturday:

What brought you to Torrey Pines? “We love it here. My girls are happy because their nanny and her friend are here visiting them from New York. My wife died of breast cancer a year ago. We brought her here to get treatment and my two daughters and I stayed to start a new life.”

That was not the story I expected to hear. It’s so easy to make assumptions and judgments. About people. About family dynamics. About everything. In the few minutes before I approached this man while watching the five of them play at the water’s edge, my mind whirred with what their family story might be, never anticipating his answer and immediately feeling a range of emotions from sadness to inspiration to gratitude as I listened to him talk.

I’ve thought many times about this connection since then – not only admiring his courage and devotion to his daughters, but also my own thoughts about family and starting over.

Lots to still consider but this I know: Family comes in all shapes and sizes and you can begin again wherever you land.

What do you believe about family and new beginnings?

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02/22/14

Does Competition Make You Better?

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How do you feel about competition? Do you rise to the occasion? Do you clutch? Do you encourage it or walk away from it?

“Competition makes me better.” Jimmy Sherburne, Princeton Tiger #2, Senior Guard (and adored nephew) playing in tonight’s game against Harvard. Go Tigers!

Back story: One of my favorite quotes and people, not just because Jimmy’s one of my five talented nephews, also because he shifted my perspective on competition. When he was 17 and playing high school bball against a college team, I asked him what he thought about playing such an experienced team and he said, “Competition makes me better. I like it.”

Profound answer for me.

I’ve never felt comfortable competing, often choosing to play smaller than my heart’s desire for so many reasons – fear of being perceived as a show-off, wanting others to like me, wanting others to feel good about themselves, early girl training in Catholic grade school, potential disappointment of losing anyway…

Now, when I feel that way, I think of Jimmy and remember that giving my best when up against any other person or team, makes us all better.

A rising tide lifts all boats. Thank you Jimmy!

PS. They play at 8 pm EST tonight, home game. You can watch on ESPN3.

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12/31/13
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Where Did You Grow Roots This Year?

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There is this amazing group of trees on my walk around my neighborhood in the morning, each of them with different root patterns that called to me this morning. Maybe they will call to you too: Where did you grow roots this year? Did those roots strengthen you or are they holding you back? What roots do you want to deepen, uproot or grow this coming year?

Wishing you a day of celebrating all the roots you grew in 2013 and a meaningful, joyous, and love-filled 2014.

Thanks for sharing!