01/22/17

San Diego Women’s March Review

Keep democracy alive. Participate
Amazing. Brilliant. Courageous. Destiny. Extraordinary…I could run through the alphabet of superlatives to describe yesterday’s Women’s March in San Diego. So many of you posted about your experience on Facebook and I have loved reading every one. Thank you for inspiring me. This was one of those once in a lifetime moments for me.

I am still thinking about all the families who brought young children and the leaders these children will have the potential to become over the next several decades. They’re watching and participating and even if they’re not sure what it’s all about, they will remember it was important enough for their parents to participate and bring them along. They were making their history. And they could one day say, “I was there and now I am here and I am making a positive difference in the world for human rights. Look what we did. Look what we can do together!” #ittakesavillage


Another image that has stayed in my mind are the people in wheelchairs being pushed by their family and friends in an unending crowd of moving people while their frame of reference is eye level with most people’s waists and they are dependent on the kindness of others to make sure they are safe. People were kind and it was safe.

And I think of that story President Obama told about a town hall meeting he spoke at in South Carolina where very few people attended early in his first campaign. There was an uncomfortable silence when he finished speaking and then out of that silence a woman in the back yelled, “Fired up! Ready to go!” and slowly others start to follow. “One voice can change a room…it can change the world.”

In San Diego, 40,000 people got fired up and went. We marched, we sang, we carried signs about issues that matter and are at risk of being dismissed, denied, or repealed; we hugged, we spoke up, we cared, we participated (around the world!), we showed the world what loving each other, our country, freedom and our rights looks like and feels like — that is love in action — and we opened the door along with the rest of the marching world for everyone to join in.

And today, we begin again. Fired up. Ready to go. Again. Right? We hope and pray. But we need more than hope and prayers. We need action. Ongoing action.

I have not been as active a citizen as I could be. I’m still learning. I made a promise to myself that I would commit to minimum one action a day – email, letter, social media post or comment, photograph, phone call to my representatives (now in my contact list), a conversation with someone who may have a different perspective – to listen, to learn, to stay informed and to speak up on the key issues that matter to me. I may fail at times but I promise to keep getting back up. How about you?

What ideas and commitments will you follow to stay fired up and not just ready to go, but going, already there, and speaking up and sharing whatever is most important to you?

It’s a choice every day. And not always easy. In fact most of the time pretty challenging. Grateful to my circle of inspiration. Stay inspired. And invite others to join you. Our presence, your presence, does make a difference.

I appreciate you and look forward to walking with you on this journey and where it will lead over the next decade and lifetime.

“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has.” -Margaret Mead

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05/9/09

15 Questions to Ask Your Mom on Mother’s Day
and the Nicest Thing You Can Say to Her


There is no such thing as a boring Mother; only boring questions.

Get better at asking more meaningful questions and you’ll find an entirely new person in your mother or anyone else you’ve labeled uninteresting.

When you ask your Mom deeper questions, you show her that you value her as a person in her own right. If she’s not accustomed to you being interested in her, she may be surprised, so I’ve listed a few easier questions to start with.

If she asks why you’re suddenly so interested, say something like, “I realize I’ve been so focused on my own life that I haven’t really taken the time to get to know you like I would a good friend. You’re important to me.” Bring the Kleenex and take the time to listen. You’ll be surprised at what you learn. (You can download the questions at the end of this post.)

  • What is one of your happiest memories?
  • What’s your favorite place in nature? Your favorite flower?
  • What’s one of the most meaningful gifts you’ve received?
  • What’s one of the most loving things someone has done for you?
  • What’s one of the most loving things you’ve ever done for someone?
  • What music, poetry, art, books, or movies have most inspired you and why?
  • What’s one of the best places you’ve ever traveled?
  • What’s one place you’d still like to visit and why?
  • What’s your favorite prayer?
  • If you had only 6 months left to live, what would you want to be sure to experience?
  • What are you most grateful for? Why? Count your blessings. Name 10.
  • What’s one of the nicest things you’ve ever done for yourself?
  • What’s the best compliment anyone has ever paid you?
  • What do you value most in yourself? What do you value most in me?
  • What contribution in your life are you most proud of?

The Nicest Thing You Can Say To Your Mother:

Mom, I love you because you…

Of all the comments I received from mothers I interviewed, the one request that came up over and over again was how much Moms want to hear “I love you.” When you can add specific reasons, memories, and details to your “I love you,” it strengthens your message and helps anchor good feelings in both of you.

If you really want to take Mother’s Day over the top, record your Mom’s answers and put them in a homemade printed book for you with pictures of the two of you. Give this book to her for her next birthday or just to perk up your next visit. Happy Mother’s Day.

If you like these questions, there are hundreds more in My Mother, My Friend, which focus on the 10 most important things to talk about with your mother:

  • Health
  • Aging
  • Money
  • End of Life
  • Self-image and Beauty
  • Resolving Conflict
  • Family Secrets
  • Intimacy and Men
  • Spirituality
  • Appreciation

Treat your Mother and Yourself to the Gift of Loving Memories.

Mother’s Day Special Package (any day is a good day to thank your mother)
* 2 soft-cover copies of My Mother, My Friend by Mary Marcdante (reg. $12/each)
* 1 mp3 digital download of a 60 minute live presentation by Mary on My Mother, My Friend (reg. $15)
* Plus a free bonus interview (mp3 download) with Mary on “Honoring Our Mothers.” (reg. $15)
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