01/22/17

San Diego Women’s March Review

Keep democracy alive. Participate
Amazing. Brilliant. Courageous. Destiny. Extraordinary…I could run through the alphabet of superlatives to describe yesterday’s Women’s March in San Diego. So many of you posted about your experience on Facebook and I have loved reading every one. Thank you for inspiring me. This was one of those once in a lifetime moments for me.

I am still thinking about all the families who brought young children and the leaders these children will have the potential to become over the next several decades. They’re watching and participating and even if they’re not sure what it’s all about, they will remember it was important enough for their parents to participate and bring them along. They were making their history. And they could one day say, “I was there and now I am here and I am making a positive difference in the world for human rights. Look what we did. Look what we can do together!” #ittakesavillage


Another image that has stayed in my mind are the people in wheelchairs being pushed by their family and friends in an unending crowd of moving people while their frame of reference is eye level with most people’s waists and they are dependent on the kindness of others to make sure they are safe. People were kind and it was safe.

And I think of that story President Obama told about a town hall meeting he spoke at in South Carolina where very few people attended early in his first campaign. There was an uncomfortable silence when he finished speaking and then out of that silence a woman in the back yelled, “Fired up! Ready to go!” and slowly others start to follow. “One voice can change a room…it can change the world.”

In San Diego, 40,000 people got fired up and went. We marched, we sang, we carried signs about issues that matter and are at risk of being dismissed, denied, or repealed; we hugged, we spoke up, we cared, we participated (around the world!), we showed the world what loving each other, our country, freedom and our rights looks like and feels like — that is love in action — and we opened the door along with the rest of the marching world for everyone to join in.

And today, we begin again. Fired up. Ready to go. Again. Right? We hope and pray. But we need more than hope and prayers. We need action. Ongoing action.

I have not been as active a citizen as I could be. I’m still learning. I made a promise to myself that I would commit to minimum one action a day – email, letter, social media post or comment, photograph, phone call to my representatives (now in my contact list), a conversation with someone who may have a different perspective – to listen, to learn, to stay informed and to speak up on the key issues that matter to me. I may fail at times but I promise to keep getting back up. How about you?

What ideas and commitments will you follow to stay fired up and not just ready to go, but going, already there, and speaking up and sharing whatever is most important to you?

It’s a choice every day. And not always easy. In fact most of the time pretty challenging. Grateful to my circle of inspiration. Stay inspired. And invite others to join you. Our presence, your presence, does make a difference.

I appreciate you and look forward to walking with you on this journey and where it will lead over the next decade and lifetime.

“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has.” -Margaret Mead

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11/25/10

Inspired Action: Thanksgiving Prayer

“If the only prayer you said in your whole life was ‘thank you,’ that would suffice.”
~ Meister Eckhart ~

Thank YOU and Happy Thanksgiving from 39.5 degree San Diego! Your presence in my life, virtual or in person, inspires me to see the beauty and connection in all of life.

"If the only prayer you ever said in your whole life was 'thank you,' that would suffice." Meister Eckhart

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11/4/09

How to Create a Happy Moment Quickly


“A happy life
is just a string
of happy moments.
But most people don’t allow
the happy moment,
because they’re so busy
trying to get a happy life.”

~ Abraham ~

String together happy moments; I love this idea. It’s so easy to get lost worrying about the future or thinking through a challenging situation, comparing myself to others, hearing bad news, or any of the many other ways we human beings naturally distract ourselves from experiencing all the good in our lives. I have to remind myself, sometimes even with a timer, to take a breath and reground myself in the present moment to stay connected to the beauty in this world.

One quick way to create a string of happy moments for yourself is to allow yourself to take a deep breath right now, put a smile on your face – a big one – and hold it for 16 seconds while repeating slowly, “Thank you.” Look around you and find something to focus on that makes you feel good and savor the feeling for another moment. And another. Do this as often as you can throughout your day.

If you can’t find something positive where you are, choose to think of your own smile as what’s giving you happiness in this moment. That choice alone can lead to happier moments and a happier life.

What’s one of your happy moments today? I’d love to know. Leave a comment below.

09/11/09

9/11: Inspiring a Legacy of Loving Service – 5 Questions

Friday, September 11, 2009 9:32 AM

Torrey Pines Reserve

Torrey Pines Reserve, San Diego 9/11/09

 

This morning on my walk at Torrey Pines I had the privilege of reflecting back on 9/11/01. I say privilege because I’m alive and so many others are not for reasons that we all know are equally horrifying, stultifying, and mystifying.

In honor of the families who experienced a loss of loved one, and to remind myself and you, if you choose, of the value of choosing to celebrate and appreciate life and this moment as fully as we can, here is an excerpt from my book Living with Enthusiasm that highlights one woman’s choice to turn her 9/11 tragedy into a legacy of loving service to the world.

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Our Lives Can Change in an Instant

Acting from our values not only fuels our enthusiasm for day-to-day living, it also allows us to get through difficult times. Our lives can change in an instant, but how quickly we forget until a crisis hits. Knowing and acting from our values can see us through. I received an email from a colleague in the days following September 11 that really brings this point home.

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Date: 9/14/01
From: Judy-Lee

Hello friends:

A friend of mine who lives in San Diego was a victim to the tragedy in NY last week Tuesday. Her 20-year-old daughter was aboard flight 93 that crashed in PA. Below please find her words to the community. She has agreed to have the message spread to the world. Please pass this along so that her daughter Deora can be remembered.

Thank you.
One Love,
Judy-Lee

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Date: 9/14/01 11:28 AM
From: Debby Borza

The last few days have been tragic, not only for our country but most directly for the families that lost loved ones during the terrorist attacks of September 11. My daughter Deora was a passenger on United Flight 93 from Newark to San Francisco. She was returning home after visiting friends in New York to continue her education at Santa Clara University in Santa Clara where she was a junior.

Deora Bodley Deora was a bright light. She was a gifted student, a wonderful friend, a kind and generous person beyond description. Where ever she went her light shined brightly leaving behind people who were empowered by who she was being. She impacted her friends. She impacted her schools. She impacted the animals at the Helen Woodward Center and the San Diego Zoo where she was a volunteer. Everywhere she went she left the world shining brightly.

As a mother, I will miss her terribly. She was my baby. My baby is gone. As an American, however, I am absolutely unwilling for her death to go unanswered. This was a young, vibrant woman who loved this country more than anyone knew. She loved her freedom. She was fiercely independent; a leader. She was the future of this country.

So here’s my stand. Let this passing be the start of a new conversation that has this world work for everyone. Let us start a new conversation that is all-inclusive, that leaves no one out. Let us start a conversation that is tolerant of all people’s beliefs, that includes everyone’s God, that includes everyone of color, and most of all, that provides a future for all mankind to live in harmony and respect.

My daughter made a difference everywhere she went. Let this then be our call: To live our lives in such a way that makes the biggest difference possible in the lives or our fellow man, with no one left out. No one! Let her light shine brightly for all people for all time!

Debby

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Sadly, tragedy, immediately clarifies what’s important to us. Tragically, for some, the lesson comes too late. When we know what is most important to us and we are willing to look for and accept the lesson or gift, we walk into a state of grace. Courage rushes in and replaces our fear. Our passion is ignited and we are inspired to share our truth, which brings more light and healing to the world.

“At the end of our life our questions are very simple: Did I live fully? Did I love well?”  ~Jack Kornfeld

Music excerpt Once Upon a Time in America: Deborah’s Theme from CD Yo-Yo Ma Plays Ennio Morricone

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ACTION STEP FOR LIVING WITH MORE ENTHUSIASM

Write out your purpose statement and spend your day imagining these are your last days on earth. How will you live? What will you do differently?

TIPS FOR LIVING WITH MORE ENTHUSIASM

  • Imagine you’ve been asked to give a commencement speech at your alma mater. Write a 250-word speech stating what you’ve learned about life that is most important, then ask to deliver it to your local high school or college’s senior class. Or send it to your family members and ask them to do the same for you.
  • Make a collage of images and words that represent your purpose statement (clip from magazines and your photo album) or print out a sign on your computer with your purpose statement. Put it on your refrigerator or a place where you’ll see it often.
  • Memorize your purpose statement and use it as a meditation mantra during quiet times or when you’re out walking or swimming laps.
  • Write a family purpose statement. Steven Covey offers a great process to use in his book, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective Families.
  • Write your own eulogy or obituary. Share it with your family and friends or put it in an envelope in your “Important Papers” file for the future. Reread it every New Year’s Eve.

5 QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF ABOUT YOUR LEGACY

  • What are/were your parents’ most important values?
  • What single value brings you the greatest joy? Significance?
  • What values do you most want your children to learn? (If you don’t have children, think of the children in your life.)
  • What four descriptive words would you want loved ones to say about you after you’re gone?
  • Who specifically do you need to share your values with?

If this post has touched you in any way, please share your thoughts. I appreciate the connection and you.

Love, peace, and purpose, Mary